tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4385698095392394892.post4450266976153273092..comments2023-05-11T01:17:51.056-07:00Comments on I am not ashamed!: 22 weeksLizhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08041255224608833140noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4385698095392394892.post-71542034651593661362011-07-25T17:43:50.781-07:002011-07-25T17:43:50.781-07:00I know! I thought I would "get it right"...I know! I thought I would "get it right" the 2nd time around and it didn't quite work out that way. But you got help much quicker this time and you will have an amazing relationship with both your children because they will be so proud of how brave their mommy is.Scott & Yaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13903259251895350619noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4385698095392394892.post-34780570361414044212011-05-08T06:04:44.295-07:002011-05-08T06:04:44.295-07:00Liz, I didn't suffer from PND but the regret a...Liz, I didn't suffer from PND but the regret at moments "wasted" is something I feel acutely - more so as we are not planning to have any more children. I celebrate and mourn each milestone with equal vigour - in the early days I was so caught up in just trying to stay on top of things that I too missed those precious bonding moments - I wonder if maybe before our babies arrive we are led to believe that we will recognise these moments "in" the moment - when in fact that are simply snatches of time in an ongoing process that cannot be easily compartmentalised... certainly your little man's attachment to you would indicate that, even when you did not recognise them, these moments were taking place... so what if as you rocked him to sleep your mind was spinning off elsewhere and busy dealing with the stresses of adult life? He didn't know that, all he felt were your arms holding him and soothing him... I doubt our babies really care if we are gazing adoringly at them as we meet their demands - they simply know that their needs are being met, and being met with love - no matter how imperfect we, as perfectionist adults might perceive that love to be...<br /><br />You are doing it, you are doing it well.<br /><br />XJenninoreply@blogger.com